What is a Prejac?

What is a Prejac?

A Prejac is a premature ejaculator. Plain and simple on the surface, but between the lines there is much more. The people labeling themselves as “Prejacs” are taking a fresh look at premature ejaculation. In the past premature ejaculation (aka PE) has been labeled as an illness, something that needs to be treated. It has even become symbol of your value as a man. These pop culture ideas are silly. Prejacs know this. Instead of treating PE as a disability, they are treating it as something that should be celebrated. They have many reasons to rejoice at their perceived lack of stamina and just as many reasons to try and become faster.

One reason cumming quickly is positive is because women do not generally orgasm from penetration alone (Castleman). If this is the case, then why is long porno-esque intercourse what most men label ideal? If pleasing your partner is the goal, then duration of intercourse should not be the metric of success. When you focus on something other than “bringing your partner to pound town” you can give your attention to the things your partner truly wants. For some people this is sex more focused on oral, or anal or manual stimulation. However, this is only the tip of the iceberg. Maybe with the hour-long-reaming off the table you guys can look at more personal fetishes and kinks. When these things come out, sex can get very personal. A recent study shows that is a good thing for her orgasm. It says, “the keys to their more frequent orgasms [for women] lay in mental and relationship factors” and more specifically, “openness in sexual communication with partner.” (Kontula). Communication about what each person wants out of sex is clearly important if you want to please her. This should take priority over how sensitive your penis is during intercourse.

Penis sensitivity is important for Prejacs, but not for the same reason as the general population. Becoming more sensitive and orgasming faster is part of the thrill for us. We train and practice to make sure that we can orgasm as fast as we can. Many techniques and methods have been developed for reducing your stamina so that we can enjoy the title of Prejac. Something is very erotic about seeing your average time to orgasm shrink and shrink. For some the lack of control that is associated early orgasm is what stimulates them, for others it may be more related to BDSM or humiliation play. For me, I love the idea of not being able to please my partner sexually and disappointing them. This is only a fantasy however since my partner and I usually focus on her orgasm primarily. Involving this idea of not being able to please her during sex has been extremely gratifying for me. Additionally, she has found that she enjoys the control she exerts over me while we role play in this manner.

Overall, having PE or being a Prejac has been a positive thing for many people. If more people adapted this perspective, we may have more satisfied people in the world. I think we all deserve that.

Kontula, O., & Miettinen, A. (2016, October 25). Determinants of female sexual orgasms. Retrieved April 19, 2020, from https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5087699/

Castleman, Michael. “Why So Many Women Don’t Have Orgasms.” Psychology Today, Sussex Publishers, 1 Feb. 2016, www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/all-about-sex/201602/why-so-many-women-don-t-have-orgasms.